in·teg·ri·ty, noun, \in-ˈte-grə-tē\1. the quality of being honest and fair2. the state of being complete or whole
Most of us claim to have it, some of us can't quite figure out what it is, and many need a lot more of it. So what is integrity to you? And how does it affect you?
Remember when your parents or grandparents told you that contracts were based on someone's word and a hand shake? People stood by what they said, and they held their integrity in the highest regard. Their reputation was at stake and they were accountable to everyone they knew.
We are all accountable to others, and even, to our self.
In all things, do not make rash decisions. Saying yes too quickly may lead to regret or going back on your word. What a way to promote mistrust! Even if you are very sincere, you may be perceived as flaky or a liar who does not stand by your word. It is ok to say no. Take time to think on it. You never have to agree with something you do not agree with or are not able to do. Even if, god forbid!, this leads to someone misplacing their disappoint and sending it your way.
If you have not already, now is the time to working towards a healthy relationship with the word “no”. There are many little exercises you can do to self condition your awareness to saying no to someone and feel good about it!
And then some people just lack the integrity of keeping their word. They want to appear nice or don’t want to offend. And other just plain forget their responsibility to uphold what they promise. Many of these people are opportunistic. Some have just never grown up or learned responsibility.
Anybody who is balanced, well functioning, happy, couldn’t possibly feel comfortable in the long run to be around people who are dysfunctional, imbalanced, or out of touch with reality. And for good reason, it is ill advised to mingle your positivity and good energy with people not of the same ilk. If you do, you may just find yourself drained of energy.
Integrity is indeed the highest form you can show the world your appreciation. Respect and honor the people around you and have high expectations of them to do the same. The ones who will step up, will reaffirm your choices. I have personally chosen to stop trying to make excuses for these people and to stop thinking that there might be change.
Live your life in integrity and choose not be be like one of these people! Speak and live your truth! If you are having trouble taking the first step, let me help you Make an appointment with me at Paradise Found.
